A lack of confidence in your intelligence can make a person with dyslexia feel as if the world is crumbling down on them. There have been so many occasions where I felt so socially stupid because of my struggles to express myself verbally. I have had those days where I just wanted to hide underneath a rock or sob into a tub of Ben and Jerrys because no matter how hard you try to fit in, you don’t.
It has taken me a while to build up my confidence and there are still times when I have major dips and have to step back in order to reflect and rebuild. It is so hard to build that confidence when dyslexia is holding you back, but you need to believe you can beat it in order to motivate yourself to thrive.
Take a look at my tips below…
Be intelligent. Believe in yourself
If you convince yourself that you are stupid then you’ll go through life viewing yourself as a failure. Believe you are an intelligent person and sit down and write a list of what you are good at and how you want to develop yourself. An example of this might be that you love creative writing, but maybe your spelling is holding you back… so why not make it your aim to learn a new set of words each week or even join a creative writing group. Just small changes in your life can dramatic improve how you view yourself and increase your long-term confidence.
Fear of failure
I am sure that I am not the only one to feel like this; one of my major worries is putting my heart and soul into something, only to fail. The fear of failure can cripple anyone’s confidence, but you have to work hard in order to confront the fear, if you fail, then try again, learn from your mistakes and turn your dream into a reality.
Take each day as it comes
If you have had a bad day write down all of the things that you did right, for example, you opened a door for someone, kept your desk tidy or even showed a good effort towards a task, these things which you might see as ‘little’ are incredibly positive attributes to have. Stick them on your mirror and take a look at them when you get up in the morning… it will do your self-esteem wonders in time.
Recognise the patterns
Sometimes you get yourself into a vicious circle and don’t actually realise that you are repeating past mistakes. When you start to feel low, note it down and try and work out if there is a pattern which is causing you to feel like this. Once you realise what is causing you to feel low, then you’ll be in a better place to assess the situation and march forwards in your life.
Regardless of what you achieved whether that be finishing the gardening, walking the dog or even completing your degree, reward yourself with a treat and realise that you are worth it and can do anything that you put your mind too!
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